There could be a day when this blog would be found by people who know self in real life and would be questioned by them about the content. These people who might question would probably be the people whom self have had bitched very industriously here, and would naturally feel hurt and betrayed.
Is there a line that marks their privacy and self’s business?
Because on one hand, their involvements with self make it self’s business, and it is entirely self’s privilege to air self’s dirty laundry in public as such. On the other hand, they too have their right to not have their dirty laundry be aired in public.
This situation was experienced first-hand by self. Before got into blogging, stumbled upon a friend’s blog, who does not go by a pseudonym. He mentioned something that happened between us in his blog – it was not intended to offend. But the people who commented on the post were people who knew self in a not-so-nice way. They commented on self’s low self-esteem and questioned self’s salvation (was a church-goer once).
It fucking hurt to see self being dissected like some piece of character in a book who has no say for herself. Could have said something in defense of self, but was so angry and betrayed and hurt that they were talking about self behind self’s back and thinking that they are such fucking hypocrites for talking bad about self in such a public place, and self’s name was not protected and everything, that instead of hitting back directly at them, vented self’s frustrations by writing a piece of self’s mind for the newspaper questioning the blogger’s right to reveal parts of their lives that may offend the people involved. Bloggers replied to refute self’s opinion and snidely questioned if self have been slagged off, hence the bitter tirade. That’s not the fucking point, is it?
And now self am doing what self have felt so hurt for.
It has always been self’s belief that talking behind people’s back is entirely alright if the person never knows about it. And if by bad luck they do, then you have to face the music. It’s one experience that can leave you feeling pretty fucked up.