blogging gobbledygook and such

1. Not only unwilling to admit they are wrong, but arguing verbally with you to the death about how right they are that in the end you have to back down or risk a bigger wrath from other equally “adult” people, but instead you look as if you were wrong and that was why you backed down when you were not! Extremely apparent with parents, older relatives and cankanterous geriatrics.

2. Being extremely patronising to you when you try to share your own experience or knowledge about something they think they know better. Most likely to spew out this phrase: I’ve eaten more salt than you have eaten rice.

3. Practising double standards that work in their favour. Like turning on the volume on the tv really loud watching some absolutely disgustingly cheesy vcd karaoke of some doggone music group from their generation while you attempt to finish a paper due two days later, but god forbid you do the same for your favourite tv show. Or having their noisy friends over when you’re sick and would appreciate a quieter environment more than usual, but god forbid you make any sort of noise with your friend even when nobody is sick.

4. Forgetting things that you have been reminding them for days, and when you get exasperated at their frequent loss of recent memories, they start exhibiting their uncanny talent for remembering things so long ago by recounting all your flaws and mistakes committed in the past, in each and every argument you have. It’s like being equipped with a small revolver while your opponent has a machine-gun; little wonder do you have to resort to doing no. 1.

5. Extolling their personal virtues and good deeds in contrast to your revolting flaws by elaborating in detail exactly what they do for you every day, like washing your clothes, cooking for the family, paying for your schooling etc but conveniently does not give you credit in return for what you have done, like taking the day off work to help them when they sprained their arms, or helping them with certain household chores. When pointed out, you would be snapped back: but I didn’t ask you to do it! or Hmmph, those are such little contributions in comparison to what I do for the family!

6. Spewing your flaws and basically telling you what a useless person you are and how ungrateful you are, but when speaking to friends and distant relatives, would boast about your achievements in work/school and life, as if taking credit for what you have strived for yourself! Applies only to biased family members.

Yes, am considered to be legally an adult, but in these scenarios, being considered a person is almost a blessing!

Note: Hope some readers who consider themselves adults would not be offended by this post. It is just a whimsical rant at this moment of time. Other times am very awed by adults and in constant admiration for some.

Other Pet Peeves

Comments on: "What are your adult pet peeves?" (16)

  1. Sounds like a mirror which never stops giving back reflection.

    sulz: don’t quite get what you mean…

  2. Sandals. Sorry, I have an anti-foot fetish.

    sulz: so you rather they wear those tasteless white socks under the sandals? that’s like one of the most horrible fashion trends among old people! even some younger people do that, which is just pure ugh.

    the kind of footwear that appeals to the older generation is usually ugh, though.

  3. Your number one is MY number one adult pet peeve. I also dislike the fact they think I think I know everything. I know I don’t know everything, but I do know SOMETHING and I have opinions about things. Opinions and knowledge that deserves to be heard, not rejected as child’s play. Not to mention the fact that those around you when you where a child never seize to think of you as the child they new when you were little.

    sulz: hear, hear! just because they think we think we know everything, when we know more than anyone else that we don’t, but that shouldn’t stop us from saying what we think we know! (err, can you follow that train of thought?) at least it’s better than some old people, like the ones self know, who boasts unshamefully how brilliant they are! (kid you not.)

  4. I would prefer no sandals at all- whether socks included or not.

    sulz: good idea. (that is if we’re thinking of the same type of sandals. there are lovely sandals out there too.)

  5. They are you and you are them. We are always the same, perhaps at different moments. Are you are who you are at this moment as when you awoke this morning? Why are there different rules for “adults” vs. minors who don’t want to grow into them?

    It’s a hamster wheel, none of us can get off and yet we keep circling around.

    sulz: still a little hazy, but have a clearer idea of what you’re saying.

    well, who knows, maybe when am old and cantankerous too, will write a blog post about kids pet peeves!

  6. πŸ™‚
    and with the years either comes wisdom or further stupidity. It’s a toss up.

    sulz: to want to be the former and not be the latter at all times may prove impossible, so we must always strive to be in between at the very least!

  7. πŸ˜€ don’t worry, I understand what your saying sulz. I’m also legally an adult now, I just hope as the years past I don’t suddenly wake up and become a living breathing contradiction to my comment. I hope I’m still blogging in 10-20 years from now so I can write a post about how my life and beliefs have changed since this comment. :p

    sulz: the blogging trend would probably fade out but am hoping it won’t for a long more time. and yes, hopefully will not contradict things said before in the future, it’s just makes all those points mentioned moot then!

  8. πŸ˜‰ Hope you don’t wind up eating your own words on some of those peeves. I found out the hard way expressing peeves like that can come right back and bite you right in the old buttocks. One of my gripes used to revolve around how much trouble my parents and grandparents had reading with their bi-focal glasses. I thought they were just exaggerating about the problems they complained about. Then when I turned forty a few years ago I found out what a pain it is to read with bi-focal glasses. I had to eat crow over that one. And number four I can relate to. I started having trouble with short-term memory when I was in my thirties. By the time I hit my thirties I could remember things that happened as a kid with better clarity than I could tell you what I ate the day before. I think it has something to do with the mundane evolution of life as a mature adult. And after I was involved in an accident a few years ago the short term got even worse. It really is true; you become your parents and grandparents as you age. Their habits, mannerisms and sayings work themselves into your life as you age – like an unseen virus. And there is always someone there to remind you of your past grumblings. I learned to late that some things are just best left unsaid because life is cyclical and often mirrors the environment you grow up in. LMAO, I would tank this post and bury it so deep no one I knew could ever find it.

    sulz: ah, the possibility of not eating self’s words in the future is almost next to none! yet it is something that am feeling at this moment in time; perhaps it will provide perspective when looking back in archives. don’t worry, time will bury it. am crossing fingers that those pet peeves will not come true for self for a long, long time!

  9. I don’t want to eat my words…but it’s difficult not to … I mean I can’t stay conscious of the pet peeves all my life in an attempt to not become them….[hope you get what I’m saying] πŸ˜€

    sulz: understood every word, and you’re right. the only way to keep track is when someone younger or your children point it out to you! we can always hope that we’re internally built to not repeat what older people have done in our generation, but then again the phrase history repeats itself does have a ring of truth in it…

  10. What we dislike in others could be what we are doing..

    LOL. Like this post of yours πŸ™‚

    I do #1 to my parents :p even though I know they do have their points sometimes. I just didn’t want to give them the satisfaction to hear me say that they were right hehe.

    Some parents do the opposite of yours in #6. I know some parents spoil and praise their kids so much but when they meet up with other relatives, they put their kids down saying, “Oh he’s so naughty/slow thinking.” Poor kids. They wondered what went wrong.

    sulz: hope not, that would be hypocritical of self then! thank you. πŸ™‚ your parents sounds tolerant and open-minded, because most asian parents want to have the last word in arguments so as not to lose ‘face’. better than those parents who talk about their children like they’re the next prime minister! brag brag gag…

  11. Adults in general and parents in particular always suck. πŸ™‚

    sulz: hie, are you sure you’re going to eat those words someday? surely if you’re not an adult now, you would be! to a certain extent though, it’s quite hard not to disagree with you! πŸ˜‰

  12. 1. And kids don’t do that ?
    2. Totally agree.
    3. Reciprocity doesn’t matter much in this world. Very sadly. That may be the biggest problem of all these days. And a big APP, as well…

    I would add people who base their attitude on who they are talking with. Totally bitchy and defensive with someone who doesn’t deserve that and ecstatically kind with someone else…

    And a big classic: judging people making the news. Evolved from judging who goes by the playground.

    sulz: sure, stubborn kids who probably learned it from the adults! app? to a certain extent everybody has different treatments for everybody else, because of biases and prejudices, but you’re right too, it’s nice if we could treat people equally. a lot of judging people on the news shouldn’t be taken seriously as the news itself isn’t taken seriously too, hence the casual passing judgements.

  13. By news I also meant gossip. The accountant is pregnant blablabla *judging*

    sulz: yeap, understood that.

  14. When dealing with parents, grandparents, close relatives and close friends it is easy to get all upset with them when you think they are driving you crazy, in the wrong or that they are imposing their will upon you. The best advice I can give anyone concerning clashes of individuality and family guidance issues is think by looking at it from an outside prospective. Very often all the people involved are offering up sound advice even if it seems to clash with personal desires and ego. Do not allow pet peeves, inflexibility, ego and desire to close your mind to your relationship ties or any information or assistance being offered. We all have idiosyncrasies that drive other crazy. And most advice and guidance offered up (good or bad) was hard earned by the individuals in question and is given with good intentions. So give them the courtesy and acknowledgement they deserve for even trying to offer help. It does not mean you have to follow the advice or directions because in the end the final solution rests on your shoulders. Thank them for the advice and say you will consider your their advice or guidance. Always avoid confrontation or getting mad at someone because you feel they are trying to impose their way of thinking on you, it rarely helps and usually creates irreparable areas in your relationship. Because when you reach the point in life where you no longer have them around to rely on many issues/peeves you thought had major negative repercussions with your life will suddenly look petty and can eat at your soul. I have seen it and I have done it. There is nothing more soul crushing than looking back at the damage you created to loved ones when you allow trivial issues, ego, misunderstanding motives, personal ambition and tunnel vision to cloud your vision. And by the time you realize the loss your youthful rationalizations created, the individuals are often no longer there to make amends with. Shoulda-Woulda-Coulda afterthoughts when dealing with family/close intimate friends are some of the worst types of feelings that haunt you through your life. We cannot be held accountable for others shortcomings in interpersonal communication. But we are always accountable for our own shortcomings in interpersonal communication. Sadly we often realize our mistakes far too long after they are amendable or restorable.

    sulz: thank you for that sound advice.

  15. My mom’s quite open minded now.. my father. No need to say (much). So if there’s any disagreement, we’ll just agree to disagree – at least that’s how it is sometimes. Otherwise, we’ll have shouting match at home.

    thescoundrel, good advice. Tough to execute.

    But I’m realizing that I should accept more help.

    sulz: at least there’s an option of agreeing to disagree! in self’s family, especially a certain someone, no such option.

    if there’s one thing older people are good at, though, is relating experience and knowledge about things that we are going to go through in life ourselves sooner or later, like how not to get cheated by cons, and short cuts to roads in the city, that’s really important!

  16. yes there is some truth in the saying, besides we inherit most of our behavior from our parents…unfortunately. πŸ™‚

    sulz: extremely unfortunately in some ways, and terribly blessed in others!

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