There’s a program on the radio that acts like a more proactive version of Aunt Agony. Instead of just pouring out your heart’s troubles and receiving some good common sense advice, the program helps the person solve his or her problems instead. It can range from the trivial to the dramatic. One day’s problem is about a lady who needs a haircut badly – the radio show arranged a free appointment with a top hair salon. Another day’s problem is a girl who doesn’t want to marry the man her father has arranged her to because she wants to marry her boyfriend. That, predictably, went unresolved.
Today’s problem is a guy who wants to confess a hurtful thing he has done to his best friend in secondary school a few years ago. He went on and on about how the incident haunted him every day, and how sorry he was. The guy, like a typical guy, forgave his friend for doing it even though the discovery was shocking and hurtful.
The question is: when you have done something wrong and your conscience screams at you, should you confess to cleanse your conscience, or should you let sleeping dogs lie and suffer your conscience’s self-inflicted beating? On one hand, you sort of owe it to the person you’ve done wrong against to confess, not to mention how much better you’ll feel after for the confession. On the other hand, you should be made to suffer your conscience because you did it in full conscience without any thought of repercussions; and to tell to the person you’ve done wrong against of your deed would do nothing but hurt the person. This isn’t a case of the incident happening in a few days’ time, we’re talking about a deed done years ago. Should you open up a can of worms or let sleeping dogs lie?
For self, am going with the latter. If something had happened so long ago, it doesn’t help at all knowing now, except understanding that small part in your life. Furthermore, it doesn’t ease your conscience more than it hurts the person you’ve done wrong against; it doesn’t make the crime go away at all.