If you’re a blogger, then you’d know that except for the rare few steadfast regulars who faithfully comment on your posts every now and then, your larger set of regular readers seem to change all the time. These people would leave comments frequently in a certain period of time, before they grow bored and stop visiting altogether. The cycle repeats with a fresh batch of readers who enjoy what you write at that moment in time, and after a certain period grow out of your blog.
It bothers this blogger that some of her readers who at one point are her biggest fans, and another point, vanished entirely from her blog. Is this an indication of the quality of her writing? That she’s a one-hit wonder to a particular reader who was so impressed by one of her posts but realised that her writing doesn’t appeal to him or her in the bigger picture? That her interaction via replying to comments was inadequate or offensive without her realising? That she’s losing her touch (if she ever had one)?
Okay, perhaps as the blogger grows, the writing style differs, the subject matter differs. But shouldn’t the regular readers be committed enough to continue reading the story of the blogger’s life? Wouldn’t they have bonded in friendship with the blogger, invested enough emotionally that they want to continue reading the blog because they want to know her better? The plot’s changed, but the show isn’t over yet!
Although the contents of personal blogs are dictated by what the blogger wants to put in the blog, the activity loses a lot of its meaning if the readers are dwindling and losing interest. It’s kind of like you have this best guy friend who you didn’t have any romantic feelings before, but one day you do, and you embark on this wonderful intimate relationship with him, then suddenly he’s distancing himself from you and you don’t know why! You never wanted to fall in love with him, but now that you are, you can’t just fall out of love and be the way you were before, could you?
In the blogging scenario, you always want more. You don’t want to be two passing ships in the sea. You want to be cows who graze on the same big field. You always want to reach out to more people and touch more hearts, even in the most casual and trivial of ways. And when you get more, you never want to lose any of them.
But if they don’t feel the same way, then it can’t be forced. That’s the way the hits go…