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Are your flaws really flaws?

We are human. We are imperfect. We have a fabulous side that makes our loved ones love us, and we have a not-so-fabulous side to us that rubs people who dislike us the wrong way for that reason.

There’s sulz the friendly, sweet, nice, intelligent, cheeky, and there’s sulz the insecure, self-deprecating, neurotic, irrational, pessimistic. People definitely like the former sulz more than the latter sulz, naturally.

So sulz tries hard to bring out the good sulz and suppress the bad sulz, because people love the good sulz more. People also always advise sulz to lose the bad sulz because sometimes the bad sulz brings the good sulz down. The bad sulz overpowers the good sulz and eats away at the good sulz.

But maybe the bad sulz plays an important role in moulding the good sulz and ultimately sulz as a whole. Because when the bad sulz misbehaves, the good sulz comes out even more to make up for the bad sulz. In a way, the bad sulz helps the good sulz to become an even better sulz. Perhaps without the bad sulz, there isn’t the good sulz.

Is the bad sulz a part of sulz? Or is the bad sulz something sulz should do her best to eliminate, so that the good sulz can shine through?

Self-acceptance or self-improvement? Or a little bit of both?

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Haha, all this sulz talk sounds like a bad spam post, doesn’t it? :mrgreen: By the way, how do you read the name sulz? [sools] or [saalz]?

Comments on: "Are your flaws really flaws?" (14)

  1. “sulz” to me looks a little like an Austrian/German word, so I’ve been reading it sooltz, you know, kind of like “Salzburg”.
    Ah, your flaws. Let me count your flaws. Hmmm–I come up with “O”. Just by posting this, you prove there is not a “bad” sulz, you know. If you were truly bad, you would not be concerned about it! I like the end of your post when you say both sides help each other. You can integrate all your moods and facets and display yourself as a beautiful gem. (Well, you asked!)

    sulz: there are some places in the world with the name sulz, around germany. it’s mind-boggling how you always make self’s pessimism-tinged words sound so good and nice! you’re a blogger cheerleader or something! :mrgreen:

  2. I read it as “soolz”.. so, which one is correct?

    Its important to be bad… that makes being good so much better… u wud not know what good is, unless u were bad!

    sulz: this nickname was created by a friend, and had never got to ask him how he pronounced it, though am leaning towards the way you pronounce it. πŸ™‚ haha, you’re right about being bad to be good!

  3. I read Sulz like Suhl-ts.

    I sometimes think of myself in these terms too. And its not just other people, but also me that encourages the ‘good’ side over the ‘bad’ side. I suspect that the two sides are a simple tool for us to evaluate ourselves, rather than someother other people see.

    sulz: does encourage the good side equals to eliminating the bad side? do you see it as bringing out the best of you and suppressing the worst of you, or do you see it as you have both good and bad and you embrace them?

    am not sure what you mean by two sides being a tool to evaluate ourselves though… πŸ™‚

  4. During interviews, interviewers would ask, “What’s negative about you?” and of course you would turn the bad into good πŸ˜‰

    What may be good to A, may be bad to B.

    sulz: yes, that’s true! it’s all about perspective sometimes…

  5. I say [saalz]. Kinda like in sulphur and sullen (opps).

    As far as I’m concerned, no one is flawless, so certainly there’d be the good in us, and the bad. It’s a matter of which one we choose to dominate and guide our lives.
    And as humans we’d all want to improve, to eradicate the bad side. Like I’m quick-tempered, and sometimes I want to take that out of me. But the problem is, is it possible? Or rather, is it needed? Wouldn’t that be like trying to be someone you aren’t – losing a part of you in order to attain a certain “standard”?
    It also depends on what you use as a “standard” measure to strive towards.
    So I’d say knowing our flaws is good, so that we can handle life better (like I know I’m short tempered so I’d warn people around me that I’m angry and do not step on my tail further). But I wouldn’t go as far as to try to “be” amicable when I am not. It’s not about changing per se I guess.

    sulz: haha, in self’s mind there isn’t a specific way to say it since it was created as a nickname online and it isn’t used offline so…

    hmm, so you’re in the self-acceptance camp rather than self-improvement. yeah, that’s what would try to do sometimes, because you have to accept your flaws! and sometimes wonder if changing would be for the better…

  6. You know, I’ve been wondering how to pronounce your screen name since I first read it. I guessed it was “suhlts”, but it’s been nagging at me, you know? So I’m glad I read this. πŸ™‚

    You know what I think is so remarkable about this post? You describe how the good sulz comes out more to make up for the bad sulz. To me, that kind of proves that you’re a good person. After all, nobody is completely perfect, so if you can strive to make up for your bad side, that definitely makes you a good person. I really respect you after reading this.

    sulz: haha, am glad you did too, so you wouldn’t wonder any longer. πŸ˜‰

    wow… what an amazing compliment to receive. thank you, really, wow… *hugs* πŸ˜€

  7. πŸ™‚
    Good blog.
    Great post.

    sulz: thanks! πŸ™‚

  8. I say it as Sulz, isn’t it meant to be said like it’s spelt? πŸ˜›

    So good sulz and bad sulz. I think everyone has a good side and a bad side in them and both are necessary. The important thing is that both should be in their proportions and the bad sulz should not dominate the good sulz. But yea, there’s nothing bad in having a bad sulz and a good sulz. After all, that’s what makes sulz sulz! Haha this sounds like even more spam! πŸ˜›

    sulz: yeah, but in english the letter [u] can be pronounced as [oo] or [aa], so which do you do? most say it with the former, but there’s one who say it with the latter. anyway, there’s no right or wrong answer in this anyway because this is an online handle and not really meant to be said but read! πŸ™‚

    yeap, yeap! hehe, if sulz were spam, what would sulz be? nothing tasteless like viagra tablets or something… maybe… hmm… chocolate with viagra ingredients! :mrgreen:

  9. I read it as “sulz”… of course I speak spanish and the “u” in spanish has an unique sound, will sound the same no matter where you use it.

    The “u” in spanish sounds like “oo” more than anything, so I guess I do pronounce it like [soolz]

    Btw, I like flaws in general; that must be the reason I have so many.

    sulz: the [oo] sound is similar to self’s name, which this handle is derived from. πŸ™‚ haha, never quite heard of a flaw collector!

  10. Wow, don’t think I’ve seen you use third person viewpoint so much in a post! It’s like Niki and Jessica in Heroes, you must confuse yourself sometimes. πŸ™‚

    I generally value my flaws more than my strengths; I think I learn more about myself through my mistakes, or questioning why I feel a certain way… I think we all need that side of us to keep our ego in check. There are definitely things I’d like to change about myself (who doesn’t have something?), but I wouldn’t want to eliminate all of them either, otherwise I wouldn’t be me… or I simply wouldn’t care.

    I’ve always thought of it as a soolz, btw… funny but I never thought about the other ways. πŸ˜‰

    sulz: haha, will be changing that habit soon in the future, though, so enjoy while it lasts. πŸ˜‰ you value your flaws more than your strengths?? that’s a first! but yes, our flaws make up a big part of us, so unless we truly want to change that bit of ourselves, we shouldn’t allow people to force us to.

    hehe, [soolz] it is then to you and many others!

  11. […] just great to realize that not all is bad.Β  Not all the time at least.Β  This all reminds me of Sulz reference to flaws about “self acceptance or self improvement?”Β  I say self improvement, but most of the […]

  12. I read your name as sooltz. πŸ™‚

    sulz: sounds good! πŸ˜‰

  13. Maybe something is a flaw maybe it isn’t. Who gets to determine if something is a flaw? If it is just a personality individuality, then maybe it isn’t a flaw at all but a unique part of yourself. If it is something that is holding you back and/or it bothers you, change it. If it is something you like about yourself then just learn how to live with it. Learn how to understand it’s affect on your personal and social paths. Hopefully then you will be able to dance among the obstacles throughout the game of life.

    sulz: well, typically you wouldn’t like your personal flaws, but you don’t hate it enough to want to change yourself, but at the same time your loved ones are pretty irked by it, you know those kinds? πŸ˜‰ for instance, practically nobody likes self’s self-deprecation and negativity. even don’t like it that much either, but feel like it’s what keeps self grounded, and makes self not underestimate or underrate people. though self’s pessimism can be too much sometimes, do admit that!

  14. […] Society, however, seems to think of the other way. It tends to view people’s failures as their reflections : They, themselves, are failures. There are numerous examples in which a scientist discovers something brilliant in his/her early life, but later does not accomplish much in his/her later life. The society labels him/her as a failure. Is this justifiable? I do not think so. Several bloggers I found in bloglines.com agrees. But maybe the bad sulz plays an important role in moulding the good sulz and ultimately sulz as a whole. Because when the bad sulz misbehaves, the good sulz comes out even more to make up for the bad sulz. In a way, the bad sulz helps the good sulz to become an even better sulz. Perhaps without the bad sulz, there isn’t the good sulz. -sulz- […]

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