blogging gobbledygook and such

First, come do this 5 love languages quiz to find out what’s your primary love language. This was self’s profile:

Profile Results

Score Love Language
7 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
3 Receiving of Gifts
4 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

How to interpret your Profile Score:

Your highest score indicates your primary love language. Your second highest score indicates your secondary love language. If two scores are identical, you are bilingual (you have two primary love languages). If the scores of your primary and your secondary language are close (for example, 10 & 9 respectfully), it indicates both are important to you. Whatever a significant other does to express love in either of these languages will get emotional points with you. The highest possible score for any language is 12.

Having a clear picture of your primary & secondary love languages will explain much of your past behavior Think back over the past and ask yourself “What have I most often requested from significant others?” Chances are your answer will lie within the scope of your primary & secondary love languages. You have been requesting that which would meet your deepest need for emotional love.

Next up: yesterday went to Ms Nut’s wedding anniversary. It was show-offy and schmaltzy, just like her! But it was very sweet… when Hubby Boy gave his speech and presented her some hundreds of roses, she teared up. Can you imagine being married for two decades? In his speech, he said that in all their years of marriage they never once said a word about divorce. Murder yes, divorce no. Cheesy, but the message is crystal clear. For the life of self cannot imagine having someone with that much love, faith, loyalty and devotion to self. Am not saying that because think am not worth it – because do believe am worth it – but because the guys have met so far are sweet talkers. Really sweet words, so wonderful to hear and the image conjured in mind is so amazing… but they stay images. πŸ™‚

And finally, another meme because sweetrosie tagged self. Have done this before, but since we’re, or rather sulz is, in the mood for love, let’s do the 7 random facts about sulz and love.

1. sulz is a HOPELESS romantic. That is, she melts at any romantic gesture directed towards her, but also she is quite hopeless at being romantic herself. And also that she does not hope any more for romance because she doesn’t see any one of the opposite sex being romantically interested in her anytime soon – hence hope LESS.

2. sulz has had a few crushes (probably could count with both hands if tried to) and has only ever liked three guys in her life. The only three guys who liked her in the first place.

3. sulz is still sceptical of online relationships, despite having been emotionally involved with two through that medium. (Yes, two out of the three guys she ever liked, she haven’t even met them in person. πŸ™„ )

4. sulz has only ever had one boyfriend, now ex- of course. Thankfully, she has experienced her first kiss with said guy. Not thankful for having kissed him but thankful for having had first kiss because am 22 and would feel a bit silly if had not had at least this innocently romantic experience.

5. Having said that, sulz feels slightly silly for have not had sex yet when am 22. Still, am not going to go get laid because am desperate for experience because it is really making love that she wants to experience, not having hump hump dump sex.

6. sulz is very secretive about her love life when she has one. So you will only hear about it if it didn’t work out or after she has been married for 3 years.

7. The last time she was romantically related to a guy was this year.

Comments on: "Love, love, love – can this post be any cheesier?" (15)

  1. I liked that very much, it was poignant and very honest.
    I’m willing to bet you have MANY people with crushes on YOU- real-life and on-line. You just don’t know it. It’s usually the way πŸ˜‰
    I think you’re crazy-gorgeous.

    sulz: well, it’s your money. πŸ˜‰ the odds are very unlikely though!

    thank you for the compliment, but ’tis not true, sadly! πŸ˜›

  2. Hey, and I thought it was only us guys that were desperate to get laid. It’s heartening to know that women are too. I hope I don’t die a virgin, that’s the worst thing that can happen. And I haven’t even kissed yet so basically, I’ve still got to start living. Are you sure you’re not married and have kids right now?

    Online relationships can end up having funny turns you know. Well it’s funny when you talk about it afterwards but it really hurts at that time. The first girl I ever *loved* left me for another guy. But I’m sure she left him too because she was Bi πŸ˜› And I had another crush but she was a lesbian so couldn’t hit on her. Funny, these things.

    sulz: desperate but not for wham bang thank you maam ones. πŸ˜‰ wouldn’t want to die a virgin either, but if you have to go you have to go don’t you?

    hehe, uh maybe…

    well, we’ve discussed this issue before and many people agreed that the feelings are real even if there isn’t physical contact! haha, why can’t you like heterosexual girls for a change? making things difficult for yourself! πŸ˜›

  3. lovelyloey said:

    Your love language profile – you need physical touch alongside with words of affirmation!!! How tedious for your future partner. Somebody (think it’s Robbin Williams?) said that “God gave men a brain and a penis but not enough blood between them” – so there – don’t expect too much out of them. -hoho-

    Anyway, tsk. I am 21 and have never had a boyfriend, much less a first kiss. So there, don’t feel silly.
    Besides I’m determined to stay single and happy and prove to everyone around that women don’t need men to be happy and/or satisfied. Pfft.

    sulz: haha, don’t forget quality time! yes am very demanding… :mrgreen: why you think no candidates!

    of course there are many of us who’s never been kissed or made love to, but still… ah, read too many sexy bits in books lah that’s why. πŸ˜›

    of course we don’t need men to be happy! but doesn’t mean you want them any less… like shoes and clothes and whatnot… πŸ˜‰

    why lah nobody wants to know what’s their love language one!

  4. 4 Words of Affirmation
    7 Quality Time
    2 Receiving of Gifts
    11 Acts of Service
    6 Physical Touch

    I guess we’re very different! πŸ˜‰

    it is really making love that she wants to experience, not having hump hump dump sex.

    Love that explanation. πŸ™‚

    As for online relationships, I’ve had one and it really didn’t work out, however we started talking on the basis of people with a same interest and now, two years later we’re just good friends. Looking back at it, I wouldn’t change a thing and if another one comes along I’d do it again and again. πŸ™‚

    sulz: very different, very interesting!

    hehe. :mrgreen: thanks!

    am glad for you that you guys are friends. am not in touch with the two guys used to know. well, if given another chance at it, wouldn’t say no, because if you don’t try you won’t know! plus, free endorphins, it’s good for the body… πŸ˜›

  5. Hey, it’s not my fault that bi/lesbian chicks tend to be hot. I never went after the lesbian but I had full confidence that the Bi one liked me. Hard luck I guess. But I like one who I think is straight now, but I don’t talk to her. Life is such a mess, you know.

    True, if you have to go, you have to go but I’m not going without having a go πŸ˜›

    sulz: so does that mean if self pretend to be lesbian guys would be after self? :mrgreen:

    well, here’s to us and better love lives in the future. *clinks pint of beer*

  6. Yep, do you want me to make a post on my blog that you’re a lesbian? πŸ˜›

    And yeah, cheers to us! πŸ˜€

    sulz: err, err, rain check lah then… haha! πŸ˜›

  7. Hey, that is very disarmingly honest.

    @ish: how did ya find out that girl was “bi”? :0

    sulz: haha, you mean the sex bit? πŸ˜› thank you for reading and saying that. πŸ™‚

    that girl was bi ‘cos ish was in a threesome with another girl. :mrgreen:

  8. @Sulz: Haha, I wish. Her friend was hot too btw πŸ˜›

    @Poonam: Well, she just told me that she’s leaving me for another girl and did a smooch with her girl for me on webcam 😐

    sulz: goodness, didn’t know your love life was so interesting!

  9. Interesting, you bet πŸ˜›

  10. I’m blaming you for my woes over at my place, just thought I’d let you know.

    Not really, obviously, but you made me think and that made me sad, but kinda optimistic too. In a weird way.

    And keep on holding out for the good stuff.
    And then keep on trying to get it better, that’s definitely a lot of the fun.

    I feel rude now.

    Glad you’re feeling so open and happy. It’s a good feeling.

    sulz: haha, if it makes you feel better, blame self some more! πŸ˜›

    we’re all hoping for the good stuff, aren’t we? find it that when we least expect the good stuff, it turns up… so right now am trying not to expect the good stuff! πŸ™‚ trying instead to get over the bad stuff.

    you are not rude, don’t worry.

    well, it was more narcissistic than open and happy (personal bloggers always have some degree of narcissism after all πŸ˜‰ ) but that can be a good feeling too!

  11. Cheesy? Yes.
    Interesting? Abso-freekin-lutely.
    It’s quality time and personal touch for me.
    Thanks for the blogroll too. πŸ˜‰

    Score Love Language
    4 Words of Affirmation
    10 Quality Time
    2 Receiving of Gifts
    4 Acts of Service
    10 Physical Touch

    sulz: hehe, anything about love and sex is interesting lah, isn’t it? πŸ˜‰ thanks for your blogroll too!

    hmm, we are pretty similar when it comes to quality time and physical touch… wanna hook up?

    :mrgreen: kidding lah, kidding!

  12. well, it was more narcissistic than open and happy (personal bloggers always have some degree of narcissism after all πŸ˜‰ ) but that can be a good feeling too!

    Second time this has come up recently (check out flying rowan for prior discussion).

    Personally, I think that blogging is massively egotistical, particularly when it’s life/personal blogging, but I don’t think that’s all bad.

    It helps people out, getting thoughts out and organised is a form of personal development (check out runningthroughrain for more of that, obviously), and I think it helps people be more honest with themselves and be more thoughtful in real life.

    And then it also gives other people two things: a) the voyeuristic opportunity to stare at people’s heads. Bits of people they’ve never seen before..which in itself is a thrill and b) a chance to get new perspectives on things, to re think things by seeing them through the eyes of another. That’s invaluable, and something that our society has been drifting away from for so long.

    Once you focus on that (the fact that blogging goes hand in hand with blog reading) and you realise that there’s good stuff coming from this. By sharing our innermosts we slowly shift people’s worldviews to something more holistic, from a societal perspective.

    Now the problem is the way the web makes us better at sifting information, and so we end up only actually reading stuff that we already agree with, but with judicious subscribing, you get challenging views too, and you’re likely to be surprised what you might agree with.

    Loooooooong ramble.

    sulz: long ramble but totally thought-provoking! was nodding head at everything you say.

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