Someone told me once: you shall have the best, you deserve nothing less than the best. I also have friends who want to have the best out of every thing, every situation; it is not the best if you cannot get more than one benefit out of it, you have to kill two birds with one stone for it to achieve its maximum potential, the best.
I think if you constantly think of how to get the best out of everything and anything, you’ll find that more often than not the best just doesn’t happen. You would be so preoccupied with planning and plotting the best, you will naturally feel disappointed when the hopes you built up with your plans does not happen in the end.
I don’t mean to suggest that planning and organising is trivial or rigid; rather, I’m saying that it’s okay if things do not go as planned, don’t put too much expectations into your plans, and don’t think it’s a failure when it went the opposite as you planned. Think, however, of the effort you put into the execution, not just in doing it but if you did it in the most positive way possible.
For instance, when I go on shopping trips with Angel, we naturally hope every time that we buy our money’s worth. Most of the time, it’s not in my case (factors and reasons aside). As I wrote about our last shopping trip, I said everything I bought were things that I wanted, but not needed. Yet, I also said at the end of the post that it was one of the more enjoyable trips with Angel. Did I get the best out of my shopping? No, and yes. No, because I wasted money which I could have used for things I need to bring for my summer course and I didn’t get to stay at the mall as long as I would have liked, and yes because I enjoyed it a lot more than I usually did than my other shopping trips. I do enjoy all my shopping trips with Angel, but this one felt more enjoyable for some reason (I think it’s because we took some photos, which we hadn’t done before, but that’s beside the point). Perhaps it’s because we didn’t expect to get the best, but we hope and tried to in a positive way. In this case, it was the best because we had fun doing it. It was the journey which counted, not the destination.
I think I contradicted myself somewhere in between, but my point is that you can get the ‘best’ out of something if you don’t focus on getting the best. Does that make sense? Don’t try to be the best, but be the best you can be. That may not be the best, but in trying to be your best, that’s a pretty great achievement in itself.
I don’t want to have or be the best. What I want, though, is to try to have and be the best I can get and be. And if it means getting less than the best, I could live with that. I just want to know that I’ve tried, or that people tried, and to me that is the best. For me.
(I hope this is something I remember when I go for my summer course, as I do have the tendency to expect to kill two birds with one stone. 😛 )
Speaking of shopping, I am an incurable shopaholic. We were supposed to go for a movie then a Korean BBQ buffet dinner after, but I went around shopping by myself while Sesat and Angel watched the movie because I didn’t want to watch it. I ended up buying a pair of chocolate brown glittery sneakers/flats kind of shoes (they look like flats, but with a sneakers sole sort of thing going on, anyway, it’s really cute) for RM32 and a red hooded sweatshirt, which I needed for my summer course (actually, I don’t, but I decided I need it, just like my sneakers/flats shoes which I hope can double up as proper sneakers in the event I need to do lots of walking, haha), for RM80. So I totally blew what little money I have left, with barely enough money for dinner, AND I got another week off my part-time job. 😦 I hope I don’t get induced depression from staying cooped up at home. (I do have lots of books to read, though, hopefully I can keep myself occupied!) Turned out, we didn’t even have our Korean BBQ buffet because the movie ended pretty late and there was hardly enough time to enjoy a buffet dinner before the restaurant closed. We ended up at Carl’s Jr – chili cheese fries!!! I had a Western Bacon Cheeseburger, yum. 😀
In my shopaholic defense, the shoes and sweatshirt I bought were on discount!