I found this post and apparently there are 4 common types of mechanical defenses.
In other words, lying to yourself momentarily. Pretending the thing you think might be happening is not. Do I do this often? Hmm, rarely, I’d say, and I call it giving the person the benefit of the doubt, haha. I far more often jump to conclusions than to actually be in denial. I don’t like pretending nothing’s wrong if I feel something is.
In other words, using other objects/people to release your anger of something/someone else. I definitely do this. When I feel angry, I blog about it or rant to my friends. Sometimes I do both. When I’m angry, I don’t feel like throwing stuff, but I definitely feel like shouting. So when I rant, I can be quite loud. It can be scary to hear me rant, because I’d be really loud and angry and you’re the friend listening, knowing that I’m not mad at you but at the person I’m ranting about, but at the same time it just feels alarming. I know, because 9 is like that and I feel the same way when she rants. 😛
In other words, condemning other people for traits you are guilty of having yourself. In criticising others, you are actually guilty of doing it yourself. This is tricky, I’m not sure if I do this. For instance, I abhor hypocrisy. I despise people who say one thing to me but mean another, especially in cases when the person thinks negatively of me inside but tells me positively outside.
Does that mean I am guilty of hypocrisy? I’m human, of course there will be a time or two when I’m guilty of not practising what I preach. But do I hate it so much because I do it myself, however rarely or commonly that happens??
In other words, using your negativity to create something positive. Like composing a song about your break-up. Or writing an entertaining blog post as a result of your anger. I don’t think I do this. My frustrations are only ever truly expressed once I have talked enough about it, whether through ranting to a friend or in a blog post. I don’t think the result is that positive, so I don’t consider my rant posts as a form of sublimation.
So there you have it. What’s your mechanical defense(s)? Tell me your stories!
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