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Mechanical Defenses

I found this post and apparently there are 4 common types of mechanical defenses.

Denial
In other words, lying to yourself momentarily. Pretending the thing you think might be happening is not. Do I do this often? Hmm, rarely, I’d say, and I call it giving the person the benefit of the doubt, haha. I far more often jump to conclusions than to actually be in denial. I don’t like pretending nothing’s wrong if I feel something is.

Displacement
In other words, using other objects/people to release your anger of something/someone else. I definitely do this. When I feel angry, I blog about it or rant to my friends. Sometimes I do both. When I’m angry, I don’t feel like throwing stuff, but I definitely feel like shouting. So when I rant, I can be quite loud. It can be scary to hear me rant, because I’d be really loud and angry and you’re the friend listening, knowing that I’m not mad at you but at the person I’m ranting about, but at the same time it just feels alarming. I know, because 9 is like that and I feel the same way when she rants. ๐Ÿ˜›

Projection
In other words, condemning other people for traits you are guilty of having yourself. In criticising others, you are actually guilty of doing it yourself. This is tricky, I’m not sure if I do this. For instance, I abhor hypocrisy. I despise people who say one thing to me but mean another, especially in cases when the person thinks negatively of me inside but tells me positively outside.

Does that mean I am guilty of hypocrisy? I’m human, of course there will be a time or two when I’m guilty of not practising what I preach. But do I hate it so much because I do it myself, however rarely or commonly that happens??

Sublimation
In other words, using your negativity to create something positive. Like composing a song about your break-up. Or writing an entertaining blog post as a result of your anger. I don’t think I do this. My frustrations are only ever truly expressed once I have talked enough about it, whether through ranting to a friend or in a blog post. I don’t think the result is that positive, so I don’t consider my rant posts as a form of sublimation.

So there you have it. What’s your mechanical defense(s)? Tell me your stories!

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Comments on: "Mechanical Defenses" (18)

  1. Me: Denial. Definitely denial. I don’t think I do it on purpose.

    sulz: you’re those who gets up late even when the alarm is set at the right time because you just go right to sleep, aren’t you? ๐Ÿ˜‰ of course it’s not deliberate, that’s why it’s mechanical. ๐Ÿ™‚ if we did it on purpose it would be bad!

  2. Very interesting! My favorite “defense” up there is “denial” because I do it all the time. I think it’s just wonderful!!! If you don’t like something the way it “is”, then, pretend it’s different! A lot of the time it will change to what you’d rather it would be. (I won’t bore you with theoretical physics theory which would state that denial implies a “reality” which can be “denied”…oops, I guess I did anyway.) ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Your displacement does sound scary! ๐Ÿ˜• I would probably go into another room until you calmed down, yet, I do think it’s a good thing to “let off steam.”
    The projection one is the most common one I think: “Things are bad for me because this person did X.” I do think that when we notice something in others that bothers or upsets us, we have that issue unresolved somewhere in ourselves. Otherwise we would either not notice it, or it wouldn’t bother us. But, this is a great opportunity to notice that trait and then examine it, or work with it, or whatever is our chosen method to allow it to leave. I’m not saying I never project, because I do, kind of a lot. But I know that if I’m upset, it’s NEVER about you, and it’s ALWAYS about me. Or that’s my belief, anyway.
    And the last one, sublimation—I don’t think I do that one, either. I admire people who turn adversity into strength, and I think it’s a wonderful use of that energy.

    I like your new about page! Very sulz. ๐Ÿ™‚

    sulz: i just can’t do denial! when i think it’s like this, my mind’s pretty much made up until i confront the person or i take an action based on my perception. i usually have several incidents to support this thinking, which is why i find it difficult to be in denial, unless i ask the person about it and s/he says a different thing. and even then, it will take me a while to shake off my initial perception!

    haha, yes, i’m really scary when i’m angry, which i seldom am these days. probably why that’s scary – if it happened often enough you’ll be desensitised, haha!

    i know you explained this upset-thing-to-be-about-me-and-not-you before, but i have a hard time grasping that concept. i mean, when you told me before, i understood it and it made sense, but somehow i don’t know how to apply it to myself; i’m always thinking some fault lies in the other party too. but i think there’s some truth in what you say, if only i can figure that out to place it in myself!

    yeah, i think sublimation happens when you are in a true tragedy (can’t think of a better word), like people with mortal diseases who go about writing books about their experiences or set up foundations and stuff like that.

  3. Displacement and Sublimation are often what I do when I’m angry, pretty much because I have a temper, and I like doing things that have a purpose… So I, I think, combine the two and write something totally unrelated to my anger — using my negative mood to spur me on. My best writing, I think (that I end up reading and throwing away), has come because of sublimation. Though the writing bit does just sound like sublimation on its own, when I’m “sublimating” I am shouting expletives at whoever or whatever hurt me, and throw stuff (nothing valuable; mostly pillows and pens).

    sulz: interesting! those sort of moody artists, eh? ๐Ÿ˜‰ yes, i think the inspired work of art has more depth than a calculated one. then again, art like beauty is subjective. ๐Ÿ™‚ as long as nothing was hurt in the process (other than the source of sublimation, that is), i guess it’s good to channel your negative emotions that way. wish i could too.

  4. All very interesting, although I’m generally sceptical of psychology. I think I’m probably guilty of displacement, with reasonable helpings of denial and sublimation. I don’t get angry very often nowadays, fortunately. I usually just move on to something else and forget about it. But maybe that’s just another way of saying denial. *shrugs*

    sulz: you are? i really believe in this stuff! haha, i think guys get over things quicker than girls too. or would that be more easily into denial? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  5. I am more of displacement person, though I wish I were in sublimation mode. I would do well then. ๐Ÿ™‚

    sulz: don’t we all wish to be sublimation-inclined too!

  6. Displace and project, displace and project. I’d rather blame someone else than myself, because… well, because. ๐Ÿ˜• Not good!

    Maybe sublimate, if ‘entertaining blog post’ could be stretched to cover ‘painfully sarcastic blog post’. I was very very angry and I wrote a pretty demented sort of post, which the rest of the world probably took at face value because I’d written the opposite of everything I meant.

    *sigh*

    Suzy x

    sulz: well, what’s good or bad is mostly subjective so, choose to see the glass a half-full. ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. lovelyloey said:

    These are extension/derivatives of the 7 from Freud, methinks?
    I’m big on denial. I ignore bad things and put them off until I have no choice but to face them. Haha.

    sulz: yeah, i think the blogger i ahem, ‘stole’ it from mention that too. ๐Ÿ˜› hmm, are people who are inclined to denial are also equally inclined to procrastinating? seems like the same concept, haha! to say i don’t do denial is not true; i do, to an extent. i just have a shorter denial fuse than most, i think!

  8. sulz: youโ€™re those who gets up late even when the alarm is set at the right time because you just go right to sleep, arenโ€™t you?

    You’re psychic! o.O

    sulz: no, i just know you too well in that sense. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  9. Your blog has been felicitated here ๐Ÿ˜€
    Cheers!

    sulz: oooh, pressie… *runs off to look*

  10. Parents are supposed to be over protective and scold you at the drop of a hat. That is their job. ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t fret over it. I can’t even ask you to be careful because what happened was very unexpected and it was not as if you were in a war zone or something like that. Just buy a rocket launcher and keep it with you. So the next time this happens, you can blow away the culprit to pieces. ๐Ÿ˜€

    sulz: exactly! who’s your rocket launcher supplier, can i have his contact? ๐Ÿ˜€

  11. I do denial, quite a few times. I always get the displacement treatment from my friends. Actually I do that too sometimes. We’re all pissed off with our studies and keep shouting at each other all the time.

    sulz: denial is never good with a girl, remember that, ‘cos she’ll just fume until you bring it up. ๐Ÿ˜‰ haha, displacement will come with a girl too; you’ll be her punching bag and you’re not supposed to respond, except to take it all in like a man!

  12. Sublimation usually. It’s a lot better when you’re in the kitchen, making something that involves a colossal mess! ๐Ÿ˜€

    sulz: are you sure that’s not displacement?? ๐Ÿ˜‰ maybe you chop the veggies a little too viciously, or pound the chillies a little too forcefully…

  13. Huh I thought my aluminum softball bat under the seat of my van was the definition of defense.

    sulz: that won’t do with a snarky remark from some old lady at the bus stop, now would it! ๐Ÿ™‚

  14. Believe me folks, not just because I’m a doctor, that we all use all of them in varying porportions. Denial and Sublimation are the two most commonly used ones by me. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Vist Courtesy – Nikhil’s blog

    sulz: ooh, what sort of doctor? i think guys have the tendency to use denial a lot as a defense mechanism; just my opinion, though. but to say we don’t use one of them would probably not be true; in other words, what you have said. ๐Ÿ™‚

    thanks for the visit!

  15. My life is in a constant state of denial!! I like to call it Imagination though.. Hurts a little lesser that way ๐Ÿ™‚

    sulz: haha, you could say that… it does require some sort of imagination. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  16. The last time I made something in the kitchen, it looked like I committed mass-murder, even if the stains are from the frozen Berry Mix.

    sulz: see, i told you it was displacement! you are taking it out on some frozen yogurt… gosh, you are heartless! ๐Ÿ˜†

  17. I guess how much protection you need depends on the granny! This one sounds like my maternal granny and Grandma Scoundrel was not someone to mess with as she kept a loaded shotgun close-by at all times as her mechanical defense!

    By the way Thanks for the Award, I think! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    sulz: grandma scoundrel sounds scary. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

    haha, what did i get you? (sorry, i forgot. ๐Ÿ˜› ) it’s all in good nature, though! i sent someone a whole load of porn for an award, i think, and that’s my good blog buddy at that, rotfl. ๐Ÿ˜€

  18. Naw, she was not scary but she took no guff from thugs or hoods. She grew up in a large family during the Great Depression , my grandfather was an alcoholic and they four kids of their own. She had to learn to be tough to survive.

    LOL you forgot! Yeah well I got the fresh underpants award. I did not know I was sending stinky BO smells across the Internet! ๐Ÿ˜›

    sulz: i didn’t know any of my grandmas, wonder how they were like.

    oh, undies! haha, no you weren’t, but fresh undies should always be welcomed what! especially for someone who colour codes his undies. ๐Ÿ˜†

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