First up, I got a present!
I received this brilliantly colourful award from Nikhil – thank you so much, Nikhil! And happy birthday too! – and now I must pass the blogging karma to 8 people.
That ye are anointed now, go forth and bestow thy blessing upon others!
(yes, I’m a bit full of myself today, please excuse me, I hate work and I need to find my fun somewhere, even if it’s just pretending to be obnoxious!)
Previously, I mentioned that I feel ‘responsible’ to my readers, in the sense that I would not stop blogging and leave my blog buddies wondering what happened to me, or if I’m doing okay. To me, blog buddies can be closer in some sense than ordinary, everyday friends you meet at school or work because they read what you think, issues that can be very close to your heart.
Do you think that that should be a good blog buddy’s duty, for a lack of a better word? Let me try to elaborate better on that idea.
When you make friends through blogging, it is different than making friends the ordinary way in real life – that is, through proximity in most cases. Blog buddies are usually buddies because they have something in common with you, whether it is interests or mentality. For instance, my friendship with Lovelyloey was forged on the basis that we share many same interests and have the strange coincidence to be involved in similar things. With MusEditions, though, it’s different. Other than blogging, I’m not sure if we share many common interests (with the exception for the love of chocolate ice-cream), at least not the way I do with Lovelyloey. (Or maybe we just haven’t discovered all the interests we may share yet.) Nonetheless, I get along with her very well (oh, who doesn’t with Muse?) and I admire her many qualities, which shines through in her writing.
So when I’ve made such good blog buddies with such great people, what happens when I don’t feel like blogging anymore? I’m sure you’ve come across such bloggers. They blog so fervently at one point of their lives, and then when something in real life comes up blogging takes a back seat, and ends up being booted out of the car altogether. Or perhaps blogging has lost its appeal for them; it was fun to do for a while, but not forever and they’ve moved on.
People can be like that in real life too, can’t they? They join a club, full of enthusiasm for its activities, before the appeal loses its lustre and they drop out of it. But what about the friends you made through the process? In blogging, you have regular readers and commenters who not just share something in common with you, but have also invested themselves emotionally to the issues you bring up in your blog, especially if it’s a personal blog.
As I’ve mentioned above, I think friendship forged through blogging sometimes can be closer than the kinds you have in real life. I mean, blog buddies are essentially strangers who knows your deepest, darkest secrets, or thoughts you have never revealed to anyone else but on your blog. When you share something as personal as that (not necessarily secrets, but just things you might share without hesitation to your best friend but not just any other friend), there is bound to be some emotional involvement among blogger and readers. So if you leave blogging, there’s nothing to connect you with these friends anymore, not unless one party take the initiative to continue keeping in touch through other methods (facebook or e-mail or snail mail).
So, if you do decide to stop blogging, to leave the blogging world forever, is that it? Just like a storybook, does it just end like that? Unlike a storybook, your life does continue, but we will never know what happens. You could lead a banal, uneventful life. Or you could be dying from cancer, and we would not have a clue.
Sigh, I’m not really sure what I’m asking from this. I mean, on one level, I understand friendship can’t be forced and nobody should feel obligated to blog just for friendship’s sake. On another level, is our blog friendship that negligible? That if you decide to leave blogging, the friends will go along with it too?
I’ve mentioned in passing here and there that I don’t like to read blogs by erratic, sporadic bloggers, who maintain a blog but posts only one or twice in a month. I don’t like that because I’d be wondering what’s going on with that person. The blogger does not ask me to worry, but I do. I wear my heart on my sleeve, and it is easily tugged by a moving post, or a kind word. This is just my problem, of course I realise that, hence the reason why I try to avoid such bloggers.
So, yes, I would like your two cents on this, please. I hope to gain a different perspective than the one I have currently.
Finally, about treats aka my present blogging project. People seem wary of receiving something in their mailbox for reasons or other. Currently, there’s only one person up for it, and if it stays that way until the deadline, I’d just spend all my allocated budget on her! Some people have suggested that I give my treat online instead (which requires some payment, of course, otherwise a free treat is not exactly a real treat, now is it?). I’m up for it, but I don’t know what’s cheap enough (it depends on how many people signed up for the project too) to give. Any links for suggestions would be appreciated! Is there anything you’d like online?
Gosh, long post, oops. 😳
Sorry to make this longer but this is such a blogging trip! First time on Hawt Post on the main page of WordPress.com!!