You know, I never understood how some people actually choose to go through difficult moments in life. One instance that comes to mind is an older friend who told me that she used to be an accountant, or something along those lines, with pittance for pay and worked from 7 in the morning till midnight, six days a week! What the hell? And if I remember correctly, she worked at that job for about a year.
I’m a believer of: if you don’t like the situation you’re in, do something about it. Problem is, what I usually do is that I get out of it. It’s a form of doing something, but I’m not really doing anything to the situation – I’m simply eliminating it.
I’m not justifying my behaviour, but my rationale behind it is that: I am in charge of my own happiness or wellbeing. Therefore, I have the power to change, to seek, to do whatever it takes to get there. I may not make the right choices all the time, but the power is mine.
And that’s why I’m baffled when people like my older friend stay in such horrible situations for so long! She had the power to quit, but she stayed in that job for longer than anyone should, in my opinion. Her rationale is that the experience was terrible but it had made her a stronger person.
I personally don’t buy into that sort of thinking. Yes, bad things in life can make you become stronger, but it’s something that happens to you because life happens, not because you choose that life. As in, you become a stronger person after suffering the loss of a loved one, or surviving a natural disaster or some horrific car crash. You don’t seek to be in a difficult position, it was just thrust upon you like how life does.
But then again, if you view hardships in life the way I do, it’s not exactly the right way either. I keep running away because it’s easier than staying in a situation which I know I have the power to remove myself from. If I had the commitment to stay in a place I’m unhappy in, I might find happiness in it some day, though I suppose it’ll take longer than I’d like that to happen. Of course, there isn’t any guarantee that the happiness I hope will come will indeed come. It may never happen.
How do you view hardships in life? Something you willingly go through to emerge a better person as a result of the experience, or something you have the power to change if you choose to?