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Happiness

Apparently happiness is something you seek within yourself by appreciating what you have, not seeking for something that you don’t have that you think will make you happy.

That makes sense. If you keep searching for something to complete you, then what if you can’t find it? What if you found it but it was taken away from you? Would you forever feel incomplete then?

So you’re supposed to be happy with what you have.

How do you do that?

Comments on: "Happiness" (9)

  1. By counting the blessings and the good stuff and thinking what could have gone wrong and didn’t.

    sulz: hmm, i did that before. it worked but only temporary in my case. maybe because i didn’t continue what i was doing.πŸ˜›

  2. Oh i wrotes 1000 word post on that.. still i have no clue…πŸ˜€πŸ˜›

    sulz: haha so i’m not the only one!πŸ˜€

  3. Hi Sulz, It is easier said than done. But I think one can be happy by not letting his or her happiness depend on others or on materialistic things. We usually think that if we achieve this or get that particular thing, we would be happy. But then that hardly happens. A thing or a person cannot change you overnight. Happiness is intrinsic and not extrinsic. It is actually a frame of mind. One day you wake up on the right side of the bed and feel that everything is right with the world. That’s a state of mind. We just need to be consistent with it. Again, easier said than done.πŸ™‚

    sulz: hi maddie, word! i agree, being happy all the time is easier said than done. i was wondering maybe there’s some secret trick behind it that i’m not aware of or have been doing some things the wrong way in pursuit of it.πŸ™‚ but like you said, in the pursuit of happiness more effort should be placed into it than talking about it!

  4. thebeadden said:

    Sulz, I just love the new look. So sorry to have missed put on all your posts lately!
    I have to agree with Reema. Well said!

    Just wanted to pop in and say hi. Hopefully I will be able to catch up soon. Take care. πŸ™‚

    sulz: thanks! i’m guilty of not visiting your blog lately too.😳 missed ya.πŸ™‚

  5. I have thought a lot about happiness, and have a variety of opinions on it, but here are my main ideas:

    One: happiness is only achieved when we are happy with OURSELVES, as human beings, regardless of our circumstances or what happens to us. This means that your happiness and your self-concept must be independent of what happens to you.

    Now, is everyone happy with who they are? Of course not – and that accounts for a lot of the unhappiness in this world (combine that with the people who allow themselves to be devastated by things that happen to them that don’t warrant it, and you’ll have ALL the unnecessary unhappiness… But, things like getting HIV/AIDS and other irreversible stuff like that IS worth getting upset about… for a moment. Then you live like Randy Pausch. Google him.), but, luckily, people can change, and can improve on themselves. They are by no means static, and often the people who ARE static and don’t change or grow are the people who are the unhappiness. But there is a way to grow: self-improvement. And the thing with self-improvement is, as you improve on yourself and make progress, turning your weaknesses into strengths, you’ll 1) Get happy and 2) No one can take your new and improved self away from you. It can’t be stolen or taxed. It’s all yours, and the one constant in life is yourself. So turn it into something you love.

    But I can’t go any farther. It’s midnight here and I need some shuteye. I’ll make a full-fledged post out of this on my blog tomorrow morning…

    Happy hunting for happiness!

    sulz: your post got me thinking, hence this.πŸ™‚ i know who randy pausch is.

    so in a nutshell, self-improvement is the key to happiness? does self-improvement in some way suggest that you’re never happy enough, hence the need to constantly improve yourself? or is it different strokes for different folks – that is, the key to happiness does not necessarily mean self-improvement but could be?

  6. […] July 21 by sulz I’ve just replied the last comment to my recent post pondering about happiness and it got me thinking a bit […]

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    You can also learn more about the iPhone app on our Facebook page.

    sulz: i did the personality pattern quiz, that was a good one.πŸ™‚

  8. Of course you can be happy while still improving. Seeing yourself improve over time is enough to make anyone happy with themselves. Though I wouldn’t equate happiness with contentment.

    I don’t think it ever ends, however. (From what I’ve heard) You never sit back and say, “Okay, I’m totally happy with myself, I’m done this self-improvement stuff.” It’s endless, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be happy with yourself as you are right now. Of course, it’s possible that if you are in fact a contemptible person, you may hate yourself for very valid reasons, but I don’t think you’re that kind of person. The first step is doing some soul-searching, evaluating yourself and your strengths and weaknesses – write them down. Be as objective as possible. Then, make a separate list, outlining what strengths and weaknesses you WANT to have – the person you want to be. After that, write out a plan detailing exactly what you’re going to do in order to become the person you want to be. Then all there is to execute your plan.

    More advice:

    1) Realize that, if you do choose the self-improvement route, it’s going to be long and hard. There will be setbacks. Lots of them. All you can do is dust yourself off and get back on the proverbial horse. Progress is NEVER made in a straight line. Remember that.

    2) If you want some more reading, directly and indirectly related to this subject, pick up: Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics, Marcus Aurelius’s Meditations, and especially Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich.

    sulz: thank you for the advice. i have a feeling i’ll come back to this.πŸ™‚

  9. There is no such animal as forever happy. Happiness is different things to different people. I have a poster with a similar saying “happiness is wanting what you have – not having what you want”. It is a nice reminder not to get caught up in the “keeping up with the Jones game” so many people immerse themselves in. It is a true axiom. Some people are just collectors of material items. Those people live by the axiom “he who dies with the most toys wins”. The trouble is most of them never take the time to enjoy everything they have around them. Since I am tossing out adages let me toss out another important one “The very best things in life are free.” Take a walk among nature. Lay back and enjoy lunch or your day off watching clouds drift over your head. Take some time away from the city lights and visit the country sky where the stars glisten and shine like a permanent Christmas Light show. Better yet do not do it alone. Take a friend or a relative and share the experience. I miss the times when I was a kid and my brother and I would just go out in the backyard and watch the night sky. Happiness is what you make it. To add another favorite saying of long passed friend – “Some people wouldn’t be happy if you hung them with a new rope.” Dream big but always enjoy every moment possible no matter how small the moment might seem. For in between the seams of those small to large moments of life – tragedy and sadness will always crowd into some of those cracks. You can help keep them away by always looking for and remembering the happy moments.

    sulz: animal?? keeping up with the joneses is very much part of the asian culture.πŸ˜† what an ironic saying! thanks for taking time to tell me this.πŸ™‚

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