Am that sort of person who has lots of time to spare to invest and cultivate in relationships, whether with friends or family. Would hardly ever turn down an invitation to go out for lunch with a friend; if self do, it’s really either because the timing was not right (prior work / study commitments) or that am turning you down because do not enjoy your company, period (three times telling you no ought to say something about how self feel of your company!).
So if you’re in sulz’s good books – which is a very hard place to be for reasons explained soon enough – you might be getting more than you’re asking for. sulz is the kind of person that if she really likes your company, she’ll want to hang out with you as much as possible. If you hate clingy people, you’ll hate sulz. If you don’t feel the same way sulz does about you, you’ll find her somewhat suffocating. If you’re a busy person and can’t spare the time for sulz as much as she can for you…
There’s only three ways that relationship can evolve to:
1. sulz will stop investing in that friendship with you, because you don’t seem to like her as much as she likes you. She would rather enjoy her own company (even if she doesn’t enjoy her company that much) than trying so hard just to make time for someone who can hardly make time for her. If you’re someone sulz was really close to, she will not even want to stay friends with you because she’s too frustrated and hurt that someone she feels so close to cannot reciprocate that spirit of friendship.
2. sulz will get upset, because she doesn’t understand why you don’t want her company as often as she wants yours. If you aren’t that close a friend, she would most likely get over it and accept that you’re a busy person and that when you do want to hang out with her, you would ask her out because you want to. She won’t bother to invite you for a drink, though she’s more than likely to say yes when you do ask her out for coffee.
3. sulz will drift apart as you would, but the friendship remains just as strong. This is only possible after many years of friendship. You would also have displayed attempts of keeping the friendship for you to be able to enjoy sulz feeling close to you yet not wanting to spend that much time with you. She can stay out of touch with you for months, but when you finally have the time to catch up with her, she’ll be talking to you like she was just on the phone with you yesterday. She won’t be too bothered whenever you decline her invitations out, because she knows that it’s not because you dislike her company, but just simply that you’re busy.
Of the three ways a friendship with sulz can evolve to, no. 1 could only happen to people whose friendship sulz really, really wanted, enjoyed and appreciated, as compared to no. 3 or no. 2.
So if your friendship with sulz ended the no. 1 way, you know you were a very big deal to sulz.